Relationships are awesome till
they turn sour with a lack of friendship. Remember the way things were when you
and your partner were just friends?
...when time was everything and smiles came easy?? Where sins were easily
forgiven and as easily forgotten? Where sharing indeed was caring, and caring
was like breathing - effortless? Where holding hands and running around without
a care in the world really was without a care in the world surrounding?
Do you remember sharing stories,
trading jokes and laughing hard at each other? ...holding no grudge and taking
no offense? ...I bet you do! So...
where'd it all go then? Where'd all that friendship disappear to suddenly? When
did the definition of maturity and relationship change its meaning to "Throw fun out the window when we
start a deeper bond of relationship"? When did 'detail' become the
definition of what we are? Why does friendship aimed at actually being better
in a deeper more detailed bond grow rather very
sour?! Sadly, this is the case of many friendships that evolve into a
deeper kind of relationship; there's an almost complete swap of patience and
fun with anger and finger pointing. Funny thing is... the best relationships are born out of true friendship.
You know, sometimes a person
really wants to smile but sees no reason to, because if they try, it will be
blown away! This is the heart of
countless, and it is upon this they act. They start holding things in easier
than letting them out, as in the past. They start to cave unknowingly and
before they realise it they don't smile anymore; they lose the will to. You may
see them smiling every now and then, but truth is, they've unconsciously
developed the skill of putting up a face to avoid confrontation. This, in my
opinion, is sad.
The dream of better things
derived from taking that step forward becomes the nightmare of things never ending! Some devil prances in and
starts doing damage in all its comfort - the
devil of detail. Once, and as soon as, ease is giving the boot 'detail'
swaggers right in with a sinister smile; "A
new, so-called, relationship for me to mess with..." are the words on
its mouth. Many, if not most of the time, we allow this 'detail' with a clever
name of "maturity" destroy the beauty we have in ease and simplicity.
Sadly, and a lot of the time, this is just because we want to seem older and
wiser in the public's eye, yet this same 'public' boldly and openly thrashes
your dreams and joys without a care in the world what the result will be. We
allow this so-called public dictate how we should live; what should be our joys
and what shouldn't. Personally, this really saddens me deeply!
A relationship is only as strong
as its friendship bond. The weakest
part of this bond is what will determine the fate of the relationship. No one
is perfect, but working on your weaknesses evens out the odds and further
strengthens the bond. To focus more on maturity and detailedness rather than
building a strong friendship, involving a balance of maturity, detailedness,
and a boat-load of fun would be an
error that would result in that sniggering devil prancing in to cause havoc! In case i sound a little
contradicting to myself, I'm merely saying that all work and no play makes Jack
a dull boy - if you grow up too much leaving fun behind, there will be a
serious strain on your relationship. The best relationships I've seen (with my very own two eyes) are great
bonds born out of friendships that naturally exhibit the right levels of
maturity and fun. One without the other is a recipe for disaster!
Do grow up by all means, but . . .
do not leave fun behind; it is what built up your relationship in the
first place.
~ yoyo
~ inspiredwordz
~ June 14, 2015 ; 5:54 am
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